Self-Help Overload?

Uncomplicating the path to peace; it can be simpler than you think.

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Something tells me that if you are here — you’ve read your fair share of self-help books, meditated with your crystals, drank your green teas, attended your yoga classes and retreats and journaled until your fingers were blue…and still, you are hurting.

Divorce does that. It leaves little untouched and disempowers us.

I’m not going to suggest one more ‘homework’ assignment for you — or ask you to fit another thing into your already packed daily schedule. Nope.

Now, don’t get me wrong — I adore and encourage any and all modalities that support your self-care…provided that they feel expansive and uplifting to you instead of like another task on an already filled to-do list.

I’ve been there. I’ve overcomplicated things for myself…and I’ve been left feeling exhausted and depleted.

Sometimes we simply make it harder for ourselves than it needs to be. And mommas going through divorce need nurturing, not another disappointment.

Many of us fall into the category of ‘good girls’ always attending to the needs of other. But where does that leave you? As they say, you can’t pour from an empty pitcher.

Bear with me when I say this, all I want you to do is sit with your feelings. Yep, that’s it. And btw, that’s big!

When was the last time you gave yourself permission to acknowledge what was coming up? The sadness, the disappointment, the broken dreams. When did you allow yourself to cry, feel the anger or fear? And beyond that, when, if ever, did you allow yourself to declare where you desire to go?

Part of the ‘overload’ is the stuffing away of emotions. In not wanting to feel something we actually create more resistance for ourselves…and God knows, you don’t need that right now. Consider letting the combustion out of a balloon that is about to pop. There is a relief that comes with surrender. By simply allowing and acknowledging you are gifting yourself something of great value.

We may not get to control the experiences of our life, but we can control HOW we experience them. Emotions aren’t always neat and tidy, in fact, they are often messy and feel like a ride on a rollercoaster. But when we sit with them, they can become much less daunting.

You can decide how you want to feel and navigate this divorce — and all that comes ahead. It may not feel that way right not, but I promise you — it’s possible.

HOW we land on the other side of divorce is a choice. I want you to take the path that supports those desires. 

Ask yourself, how do you want to feel…in this moment, through your divorce and beyond? This is your big, beautiful life…and it’s still unfolding. What’s your next chapter going to be? Remember, you’re the author.

You’ve got this momma!

—Kristen Noel, Certified Intuitive Divorce Coach | Editor-In-Chief, Best Self Magazine