Not the Time to Wing It

How do you get the best outcomes in divorce? Spoiler alert: It's not by going it alone and sitting idly while it all unfolds. There's a much better way.

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If you received a medical diagnosis that required a complicated surgery, would you wing it and just go with the first available surgeon — or would you research to find someone who is in the top of their field, in a known hospital and with a solid track record? Surely the latter. Why? Because you want the best outcomes...you want to get through this ordeal and heal.

Divorce is not a time to wing it.

No one is expecting you to know HOW to divorce. You don’t need anyone to tell you that divorce casts a wide net that scoops up all aspects of your life and that of your kids. Nothing is left untouched, not your finances, your living situation, your emotions and your kid’s wellbeing. Suddenly, the world revolves around divorce and you are stuck in the middle of it.

You aren’t expected to be an expert in this arena — not a lawyer or child psychologist — but it is a time for support.

An athlete doesn’t hire a coach after the race. No, they work with someone as they prep for the race, someone who will optimize their performance — someone who will walk beside them when they are wobbling with doubt. And most of all, someone who will remind them and guide them back to their potential. They invest in their outcomes.

It’s the same with divorce.

You might be thinking something like, I’m just so overwhelmed right not, not knowing which way to turn, writing check after check to my attorneys...I just can’t take on anything else right now.

I get it.

I remember the terror I felt as my bank account dwindled, but investing in yourself shouldn’t be considered as spending more...it’s actually about investing in your future and getting the best results — saving time, money and heartache in the long run.

Your lawyer is an expert at getting the divorce through the system, but they can’t hold your hand and help you navigate your emotions. They can’t help you nurture your kids so they don’t spiral down. That’s not their wheelhouse.

Divorce isn’t all about the division of assets. It’s also about the dissolution of a family and there’s a lot to unpack there. How you get you and your kids through this experience depends upon the path you choose and the support you have.

That’s exactly why we created the Best Self Intuitive Divorce program.

I never knew that my coaching was going to lead me to this arena...but it makes perfect sense to me now. I know exactly what it feels like to stand where you stand — and nothing is more powerful than holding the hand of another momma as she steps back into her power. It’s precisely why I’m so passionate about working with mommas as they navigate divorce.

Are you one of them?

—Kristen Noel, Certified Intuitive Divorce Coach | Editor-In-Chief, Best Self Magazine