How Are You Navigating Your Divorce?

New territory, new challenges — divorce is complicated, but needn’t be further complicated by unnecessary suffering. There is a better way.

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Not going to lie...I love hearing from my clients after they’ve gone through our coaching program.

I love to receive their updates, witness their progress, and see them come alive again. It makes my heart smile because I know where they were, what they went through, where they got to and how it transformed not only their lives, but that of their kids. We’re talking serious wins.

And I’m about to make a bold statement, but a true one. Though it may look differently for each of them...

Every mama that has committed to showing up for herself has successfully taken control of her divorce (and life) and has reclaimed her voice, her worthiness and her healing.

That doesn’t mean that they aren’t still dealing with legal negotiations, family decisions and lots of emotions. It means that they are dealing with it all VERY differently than they were before we started working together.

The HOW they are doing it is everything — and informs the condition they are in while they are navigating the process and will be in when they arrive on the other side of their divorce.

Case in point: I received a recent email from one mama who was updating me on a few things that included telling me about a fabulous new job, a little upgrade to her wardrobe, suddenly feeling more social and commenting on some of the current divorce proceedings.

She said, “The custody thing is ridiculous and dumb.” And I laughed as I read it because, YES, the unnecessary fighting back and forth is, quite frankly, ‘ridiculous’ and ‘dumb’. But it wasn’t the words she used, it was what was behind them.

Let me step back for a second. Most women are blindsided or heartbroken by the time they surrender to divorce. As they swim in a tidal wave of emotions vacillating between sadness, anger, guilt, remorse, depression, overwhelm and back again — they can usually barely keep their head above water. And everyone suffers.

But the mamas who have leaned into finding a better way — find a better way.

It’s honestly that simple. And you too, are only one step away from making a different choice for you and your kids.

Back to my client, what really made me happy when I read her comment is that her newly found, grounded self is much more capable of making the decisions she needs to make. Once emotionally untethered and all over the place — she is now seeing things more clearly, not lost in her emotions, and able to operate from that foundation.

That is healing. That is sustainable. That is a gamechanger...today and in the future.

It doesn’t mean that she won’t be faced with difficult choices, but it does mean that she will operate from a very different position. She can trust herself. She is already seeing the changes in her life that have come from the result of caring HOW she got herself and her son through this untangling with a narcissist.

There is life to be had even during divorce.

There is joy, success, precious moments and transformation — all of which gently take your hand and guide you into your next chapter.

Now doesn’t that sound like a better way to divorce?

—Kristen Noel, Certified Intuitive Divorce Coach | Editor-In-Chief, Best Self Magazine