Enough Is a Full Sentence

You may have lost your way in your marriage, but declaring enough is enough is a way back

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Enough is a full sentence.

Most people, especially mamas who have grown accustomed to putting everyone’s needs, agendas and tasks above their own — get stuck where they no longer want to be because they don’t know what steps to take next.

That overwhelm can feel paralyzing...and so, there they remain...shrinking and losing parts of themselves along the way.

Getting unstuck starts with getting clear about what you can no longer tolerate and giving yourself permission to declare it. You don’t have to have the steps to get there all mapped out before you, you just need to allow this truth out.

And those truths have a way of finding a way out whether you invite them or not. However, this isn’t the strategy you want to take. You don’t want to wait until you are ready to explode, to be heard. You don’t want your words to emerge within a fit of rage and come out sideways. You don’t want to wait until you have to scream at the top of your lungs...ENOUGH. I’ve had enough. This has to stop.

There is a better way.

This is a theme that has been emerging of late with many of the women I coach. They have played nice for so long that they’ve lost their voices in the process — and that often suited their partner’s needs. These mothers were gaslit and belittled. When they expressed themselves they were called ‘emotional’, ‘hysterical’, or worse yet — ‘abusive’.

Oftentimes in these cases, being called ‘emotionally abusive’ is another way of saying, you’ve gone against the narrative of the status quo. You’ve taken a step on your own behalf. You’ve pushed back, which is often a step forward.

Enough with the status quo if it isn’t suiting you.

I have a client whose husband was enraged when he didn’t get his way, when she didn’t want to talk about what he wanted to talk about when he wanted to talk about it — even if that was the most inopportune time, like before she headed out to work first thing in the morning or in front of their child.

We can’t change or control other people, but we can change and learn to control how we respond to situations we are presented with and how much additional fuel we add to the fire.

Walk away.

Give yourself the room to process.

Honor your timing.

Listen to your inner voice.

Give yourself space and stillness.

And declare all of your ‘enoughs’.

I’ve had enough of this unhealthy dance.

I’ve had enough of your bullying ways.

I’ve had enough of being belittled.

I’ve had enough of being unheard.

I’ve had enough of this conversation.

I’ve had enough of abandoning myself.

Enough.

Where did you lose your way, mama? It’s OK. Don’t beat yourself up. There is a path lined with breadcrumbs awaiting your return. It really starts with getting clear and honoring yourself — your voice, your needs, your truths — and what you want to model for your children.

I’m here to remind you that you are more than enough and there is no time like the present to reclaim your enoughness!

This is what I do. I walk beside mamas, holding their hands and guiding them back to themselves — and what a slice of grace it is to witness a woman settle back into her voice and power.

Is this you? Are you ready? Have you had enough? If so, book a FREE call so we can chat about where you are and more importantly, where you are headed and a plan for getting you on your path.

—Kristen Noel, Certified Intuitive Divorce Coach | Editor-In-Chief, Best Self Magazine